FYI Wisdom to Teens

I will be SO glad when tomorrow is over.  I know, don’t wish your life away.  That is a good philosophy, but I will be SO GLAD when tomorrow is over.  

The struggle goes on between my hubby, Jeff, aka Tower of Strength, and my daughter, Jess, aka Little Tower of Strength.  Wes and I are caught somewhere in the middle, hiding out as often as possible and remaining completely neutral.  If you read my last post, I noted that Jeff will be heading to Virginia tomorrow.  Jess desparately wants to go, but is just now beginning to feel better and has shown poor judgement in what should be the typical CFIDS life.  You know, do a little, rest a bit, do a little more, rest a bit, go to bed at a reasonable hour, don’t throw caution and rationality out the window – that kind of thing.

Jeff actually began to rethink his position during the weekend – momentarily.  It didn’t last, though, because Jess continued to cry every day and write letters to him every night.  At a certain point it just becomes a battle of the will.  Needless to say, Jessie has pestered her dad to death and now there is NO WAY he will change his mind because, as most parents know, it will give her the impression that she can continue this begging and pleading and pestering and writing of even more begging letters behavior for any future occasions during her time in our home.  

Deep down she’s a pretty reasonable kid.  So AFTER tomorrow, when the wailing settles down, I will explain to her relationship lesson 101.  Make your case respectfully, then sit back and be the model child from that moment on.  That is your only chance that a parent will relent and change his or her mind.  

So, having said that, if you are a religious person, pray that our family will survive the mental anguish during the next 48 hours.  If you are not a religious person, throw a few wishes in my direction if you have a sec.  By the way, we’re not entirely evil parents.  The whole family will be heading to Virginia in exactly one month. 

Health Update:  Jessie is continuing to feel better!  She is walking on the treadmill and doing pilates every day.  She and her dad even went for a very short bike ride yesterday afternoon.

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2 responses to “FYI Wisdom to Teens

  1. You survived? Learning how to say no to activities is such a hard thing to do — but, as my husband pointed out today, it is also very empowering. As I was just saying to my teenage son (15 1/2), grown-up freedom is different from kid freedom. It’s not just the freedom to do what you want whenever you want, it’s the freedom to be responsible and use restraint so that you have more options and can do more of what is really important to you.

    Um, yeah, he doesn’t get it yet! 😉

  2. Sue

    Sorry for the anguish in your household over the Va trip! I know how difficult those decisions can be. Craig’s mad at me this evening because I said no to a sleep-over (after an exhausting weekend with his cousins!).

    Glad to hear Jessie made it to school two days last week – that’s great!! I hope you’re enjoying your spring break week.

    Sue

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