Our History

This blog is the story of my daughter, Jessica, our family, and a daily chronicle of our experiences in living and coping with chronic illness.  From time to time my posts will be angry, but I’m hoping that they will each contain a healthy dose of humor and hope.  You simply can’t survive life without throwing in a bit of self-depreciating humor on a regular basis.

First things first.  We need a bit of history.  Sorry, this will be long, but necessary.

Our family consists of me (Lori), hubby and dad (Jeff), older son and brother (Wes) and finally daughter and sister (Jessie).  We will all pop in from time to time.

Now the story.  Jessie was your typical kid.  She loves sports, participating in everything from mountain biking and horseback riding to soccer and softball.  She played flute in the school band and was (and still is) extremely sociable.  

The first weekend of November, 2005  Jessie, then 12 years old, became sick with what we were sure was mono.  Her best friend had mono at the same time.  The only difference in their illnesses was that Jessie was plagued with a constant headache.  Her friend recovered.  She did not.  We later found that she tested negative for mono.  

By December we were having all of the blood tests, MRI, etc. with no answers.  Jessie gradually became de-conditioned and began physical therapy.  By the grace of God, we had a young doctor who recognized that Jessie could possibly have Chronic Fatigue Immune Dysfunction Syndrome (CFIDS).  She was not only our doctor, but also became our friend and supporter.  Jessie also began to see a wonderful pediatric neurologist who eventually found the right combination of medication to help control many of her symptoms.  Her initial symptoms were exhaustion, insomnia, migraines, muscle aches, and joint pain. 

During the initial seven months of being sick, Jessie was either confined to her bed or our sofa.  (She ruined our sofa by creating a permanent indentation and we joked that when she got better we would have a sofa-burning party!)  Jes was assigned a homebound tutor through the school system.  By May or June of 2006, Jessie slowly built up the strength to get out of the house a bit and she was eventually able to go back to school in the fall of 2006.  She would have relapses many times during the next two years requiring the use homebound tutoring.  While she can walk, get out, and attend school, Jessie cannot run or participate in sports at all.

In February of 2008, as a ninth grader, Jessie became ill again, but this time with new symptoms.  Over the course of the next 2 months it was discovered through an endoscopy that she also has celiacs disease.  Simply put, she can no longer have any form of gluten (no bread, pastries, pizza, you get the picture).  For most this is a terrible diagnosis, but for Jessie, it was like a death sentence.  See, this girl of mine has always had the gift of baking, specifically pastries.  Pastry chef was high on the career list. (Footnote:  Jessie has since come to realize that there is a real calling for gluten-free pasty chefs, so all has not been lost)

In October of 2008, the migraines returned with a vengeance.  We have since had two trips to the emergency room to break the cycle, relapses of CFIDS, ending with advise from her Atlanta neurologist to get her to a psychiatrist because the headaches just kept coming back with no explanation.  Therefore, she must be depressed.  My gut feeling was that she wasn’t depressed. I felt that something was really out of whack with her system or medication and with the recent diagnosis of celiacs, we were due for a complete overhaul.  

Out of desparation, I turned to the internet and found the Hunter Hopkins Clinic in Charlotte, North Carolina.  We had our initial appointment last week and were there for 5 hours, four of those being a one-on-one interview with the doctor.  Many questions are still in the air as to her true, final diagnosis.  While there, Jessie had the tilt table test and failed miserably, passing out after only five minutes.  This resulted in a diagnosis of Neurally Mediated Hypotension.  They took, what seemed like, her body weight in blood for tons of tests.  The doctor found a pronounced heart murmur, which apparently had not been noticed previously.  We will be going to a cardiologist this coming Wednesday for an echocardiogram.

Well that’s the MUCH abreviated (believe it or not) history of Jessie’s illness.  If you’ve stayed with our story for this long, I must say that you are a real trooper and will be provided with stories and updates on a regular basis.  

Thanks for being here and have a terrific Sunday.



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3 responses to “Our History

  1. Teresa M.

    Hi Lori, I came here from your jewelry website. I am so sorry for what your daughter and your family are going through.

    I was very interested in her progression and will be researching some of what you mentioned in your post. Last year my (then) 15 year old son started having episodes of severe headaches and vomiting (5-7 x per day) that lasted anywhere from a week to a month. He missed almost the last month of his sophomore year in h.s. His first neurologist diagnosed him as having cluster headaches, but according to my own research, this didn’t make sense. When he had his next episode that neurologist wanted to put him on lithium, which is a powerful drug with many serious potential side effects. At that point I told his pediatrician that I wanted a 2nd opinion and wanted him to be seen by a pediatric neurologist from Boston Children’s hospital. She agreed and he has been seen there by both a neurologist and gastroenterologist. He has been tentatively diagnosed as having abdominal migraines. Unfortunately, he has has a constant headache (no vomiting) coupled with insomnia/sleepiness since November which they can’t seem to knock out with medicine. They recommended acupuncture which he has been getting for a few weeks, with no positive effect on the headache. He is sleeping somewhat better (he is also taking melatonin to help his sleep cycle) He has been able function somewhat normally, but he often walks around like a zombie. I feel so bad for him and feel so helpless. Thanks for letting me vent!

  2. My heart goes out to all of you. It is so hard when our children are hurting…physically and/or emotionally. I will keep you all in my thoughts. My daughter has to eat gluten free. In college and after she lived on Immodium AD. She would take it before she ate anything so she wouldn’t end up in the bathroom right after. We had no idea what was wrong. She also suffered from depression and was taking medication for that. She was terrified to date because she couldn’t go out to dinner. How do you tell a date that you get sick every time you eat. After many years, we happen to meet up with a chiropractor that also practiced AK (applied kineseology) an unusual form of food sensitivity testing. She tested Tresa and told her she couldn’t eat any wheat products. She stopped eating them and that horrible nightmare ended. Tresa is now 34 years old and getting married next month. She still suffers with stress induced depression and stress induced migraines but was just given a new medication for the migraines that she takes the moment she feels one starting. It’s working well so far. She just went off her antidepressants because she can’t be on them if she wants to get pregnant.

    The key to any unexplained illness is research. The doctor’s and your own. Don’t take anyone’s word for anything until you are 100% sure that they are right. Get multiple opinions before taking any drastic measures. There is always a reason when our bodies breakdown and with the support of family and good physicians you will work through it all.

    Jessie, we are always looking for gluten free foods that taste good. We just had flourless chocolate cake at a wedding shower today and both restaurants we had the two wedding showers at had full gluten free menus. You can be anything you want to be…even if it’s a gluten free chef!

    I will be following your story with a very hopeful heart!


  3. Hi Lori,
    I hope I can just be a support person. I have taught preschool for many years and walked parents through so many things!! Maybe just a support person for you ! My heart goes out to all of you. Huge hugs and hang in there!! I used to live in Raleigh – great care for your daughter there!!! Truly, Sarah

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